Breakups & Makeups
Need to break up with someone? Breaking up now? Stuck in the breakup-makeup cycle? Still together in spite of all logic and gut feeling? Sorting out the Situationship? Reconnecting after a rupture?
I will help you come up with an action plan that is practical and concrete. You don’t have to do this alone. I will support your choice to do what feels right for you no matter what choice you make and help you make it happen.
Gender(s)?
Gender is weird. Sometimes it helps to talk about it. I’m very here for those conversations. Your identity matters and is valid.
Non-monogamy & Non-Traditional relationship & Family structures
I see you folks out there. Yeah, you. I’ve got you covered. I know it’s hard to find providers of any kind who are familiar with “non-traditional relationships.” I am an ideal coach for anyone who has been looking for someone who doesn’t just “tolerate” your relationship structures and orientations, I welcome and celebrate them.
I’m open to working with individuals, duos, trios, groups+, anyone who is in the relationship who has the same goal. If your polycule is having some communication issues and that polycule consists of three nesting partners, one long-term long-distance partner, a seperate, non-romantic housemate there for support, and 3 elderly cats— fantastic. I can’t wait to meet everybody.
Self-Esteem & Self-Compassion
Imposter syndrome? Endless rumination about your performance/conduct? Need hefty amounts of validation outside yourself to quiet that negative self-talk? Do those things describe almost everyone in the world? Perhaps. Even more reason to talk to someone! That part of your brain that is being a jerk to you has had enough of your time and mental load. I believe that we can achieve a balance between not beating ourselves up constantly while maintaining self-awareness and accountability.
Weight/Size/Body Acceptance
Body shame, ableism, fatphobia, and body-related discrimination are embedded in American culture and hammered into us since birth and every day since then. I will work with you to destigmatize and normalize the enormous diversity of bodies everywhere all the time. The less time we spend judging our and others’ bodies, the more time we have for fighting oppression!
Goal-Setting & Navigating Change
Collaboration is key when it comes to setting and achieving goals. With progress comes change, which isn’t always easy, even if it’s positive change. Together we will identify and prioritize goals to get you where you want to be, with me in your corner keeping you motivated and accountable to yourself and your stated mission.
Life Skills, Job Skills & Accessibility
Living in the world in general is tough, but especially so for those who identify as disabled, neurospicy, experiencing poverty, and those for whom our systems and structures were not made for. These barriers are extremely real and present many challenges to folks who don’t conform to the privileged “norm” (white, male, able-bodied, monetarily self-sufficient, etc).
While we collectively work to change these systemic biases and oppression, I can assist you in finding ways to make your life a little easier by adding information and practical skills while identifying barriers to well-being and removing those that are in our sphere of control.
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